tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-41283021946546013342024-03-13T06:53:52.762-04:00Grrl in the CornerInside a transsexual mind.Vivhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04223785579521616557noreply@blogger.comBlogger87125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4128302194654601334.post-62316857899895322732012-07-02T14:09:00.002-04:002012-07-02T14:09:51.187-04:00APA Task force recommendations on GIDI'll comment after I read this.
Byne, W., et al. (2012). Report of the American Psychiatric Association Task Force on Treatment of Gender Identity Disorder. Archives of Sexual Behavior; DOI 10.1007/s10508-012-9975-x Vivhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04223785579521616557noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4128302194654601334.post-27411481920167859692012-06-07T10:48:00.001-04:002012-06-07T10:48:24.066-04:00Sears ad, gender stereotypes
from the blog Hot Rods For Girls (click photo for link)
I was flipping between the Stanley Cup game and the NBA playoffs last night, interspersed with various other channel flips, and rather annoyed that because of a contract dispute between my cable company and the local Fox affiliate's owners that I couldn't watch So You Think You Can Dance... where was I? Oh yes, I saw a commercial Vivhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04223785579521616557noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4128302194654601334.post-9181333061936733202012-04-16T08:49:00.001-04:002012-04-16T08:49:21.150-04:00Constant reminderFrom Grace Helbig's vlog, Daily Grace:
Why do men have nipples?
Because it's God's constant reminder that they almost had tits!
sigh.
:-)Vivhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04223785579521616557noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4128302194654601334.post-22651224673102731442012-04-04T18:40:00.001-04:002014-05-09T09:29:11.962-04:00Guy legs
Pro tennis star Serena Williams
I'm genetically blessed (?) or cursed with very muscular legs. I don't do squats with weights. Heck, since I made the conscious decision to coax my body towards my mind's feminine idea of it, I rarely use any weights at all. I still run around when coaching, and I work out on a rowing machine, but theoretically, that should just help keep me Vivhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04223785579521616557noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4128302194654601334.post-68935531082239918862012-03-13T15:01:00.002-04:002014-05-09T09:28:50.948-04:00Dressing still matters
Since I'm currently in a situation where I'm out only to my wife, my normal dress is more or less androgynous - women's Levi's, a T-shirt of some sort, girl sneakers, girl undergarments. I work at home, so sometimes I'll switch to a more feminine blouse, but because my kids often drop by without much, if any, warning, that's the extent of my getting dolled up lately. But I was sort Vivhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04223785579521616557noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4128302194654601334.post-30059397437047472532012-03-06T11:53:00.001-05:002012-03-06T12:07:14.496-05:00Book Review: Eon by Alison Goodman
This is actually a review of both Eon, by Alison Goodman, and its sequel, Eona. Realistically, reading just the first would feel incomplete, and I feel fortunate that I didn't come across these books until both had been released. But that's just a minor pet peeve of mine: I like series of books just fine, but please make each book a self-contained tale that doesn't absolutely Vivhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04223785579521616557noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4128302194654601334.post-16673323819861367922012-03-05T22:24:00.004-05:002012-03-05T22:24:59.230-05:00Fashion weeks
Yohji Yamamoto Fall 2012 via Fashionista.com
I think it is currently Paris Fashion Week, following New York, London, and Milan recently, and as someone with a mild interest in fashion, I've been following some of the fashion blogs' pictures from all the different runways. One of the things that has struck me is how many of the fashions almost require the female wearer to be quite flat inVivhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04223785579521616557noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4128302194654601334.post-52943278472372960812012-02-28T15:59:00.002-05:002012-02-28T16:00:09.411-05:00Therapy for a Transwoman, Part 1For a while, I went to a therapist. The cynical may think that I just went long enough to get diagnosed and get a recommendation for hormones, but that's not the truth. I enjoyed those sessions. I stopped because of a combination of changing insurance and also a feeling that I wasn't progressing in my transition anytime soon. Not her fault, by the way, I wasn't ready to Vivhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04223785579521616557noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4128302194654601334.post-50917876958461433662012-02-27T16:18:00.003-05:002012-02-27T16:18:49.483-05:00Splish Splash
A splash of color can certainly help pull a person (such as myself) up a little from the depths of a self-pitying depression. Obviously, it's not a miracle cure, but as the bulbs in my front yard sense the warmth of spring approaching, little pops of color start jumping out of the mottled brownish background. One of the things I tend to do when I'm in one of my moods is to do a lot Vivhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04223785579521616557noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4128302194654601334.post-62534590550765108612012-02-19T09:31:00.001-05:002012-02-19T09:31:05.455-05:00Hate is the wrong word.I don't hate my current body. I've had some really great times and done wonderful things with it. So hate is the wrong word to describe how I feel about it. Not too strong a word, just the wrong word.
I am thinking about this because I have been seriously thinking about losing the testes - having a bilateral orchiectomy done. As I was doing the research on it, I ran Vivhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04223785579521616557noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4128302194654601334.post-75151599472521804122012-02-15T10:14:00.000-05:002012-02-15T10:14:20.972-05:00Being seen today.Well, unless something unexpected comes up, I will be entertaining a guest at my house this afternoon. I as in my real, "Viv", self. This person (non-TG) has seen me both male and female before, and has been supportive, but because of various busy-ness in each of our separate lives, we haven't really seen each other in a couple years now. Well, my male self has had a few short Vivhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04223785579521616557noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4128302194654601334.post-41708688139371276122012-02-12T18:01:00.002-05:002012-02-12T18:01:49.335-05:00Out of the cave.
I work from my home office, which is sort of a literal cave, being in the basement. It's also a metaphorical cave, because aside from a few specific scheduled interactions, I don't like to leave the house much, and rarely see a lot of people at once, other than trips to the supermarket (but I just do my shopping and get out). This is sort of a form of self-preservation while I am Vivhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04223785579521616557noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4128302194654601334.post-49008719235976943172012-02-06T12:45:00.001-05:002012-02-12T18:03:35.844-05:00passing naked
well, not actually naked. i've been thinking alot lately about whether or not my face passes for a woman's when I'm not wearing makeup. I'm pretty sure that if I'm dressed in total guy drab, no one will look at my face and say, "Why's that girl doing drag?" What I want is to be recognized automatically as female when I'm dressed either completely femininely or even Vivhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04223785579521616557noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4128302194654601334.post-34306451941371770972012-02-01T14:57:00.002-05:002012-02-01T14:57:21.772-05:00Annoyances!
Does anyone else (who hasn't had bottom surgery) find the trend toward panties with narrower crotches to be extremely annoying? I'm really not well endowed in the guy genital department, but it's hard to keep tucked with many of the latest panty styles! Surely it can't just annoy panty-wearers with "extra junk"... I mean, even if I had my bottom surgery or if I was a natal girl withVivhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04223785579521616557noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4128302194654601334.post-74393849010192239912012-01-30T13:28:00.000-05:002012-01-30T13:28:22.569-05:00Energy sapping stealthI'm 44. That means that for probably the last 36 years I have been conscious that my body's gender does not match the gender of my brain/thoughts/soul/self. And, probably for the last three decades, I've known that at least some people are actually able to do something about that problem - to reconcile their body and mind, and to live publicly that way. I can't. Not yet. &Vivhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04223785579521616557noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4128302194654601334.post-55454174243125530542012-01-25T16:52:00.001-05:002012-01-25T16:52:30.631-05:00GigglesOK, most people wouldn't necessarily find the ad copy on this cute Hapiru dress to be particularly amusing. But I don't often see the word "tucked", and being a transwoman, the word brings something to mind that is probably not what was intended.
Now, I happen to like this dress already, but hey, if it keeps my "imperfections" tucked and hidden, then I'm buying a closet-full of these Vivhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04223785579521616557noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4128302194654601334.post-44131093314736459502012-01-24T20:29:00.000-05:002012-01-24T20:29:42.065-05:00Rocksmith rocks! Sometimes in miniskirts and stilettos.I've decided to start using this as a more general archive of my thoughts rather than just the trans-related ones. I'll still keep my other non-trans-aware blog since I'm still not out to most people in my life yet, but I want to keep integrating more and more of my life, online and otherwise, with the eventuality of my living life out loud as a woman... hopefully.
So, I'm starting with myVivhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04223785579521616557noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4128302194654601334.post-59599848943846367532011-11-07T08:37:00.001-05:002011-11-07T08:37:42.176-05:00Transsex and the City - videoFrom Candy magazine:
CANDY 3. TRANSSEX & THE CITY BY ELLEN VON UNWERTH from By Luis Venegas on Vimeo.Vivhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04223785579521616557noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4128302194654601334.post-868453569680968222011-10-05T19:47:00.000-04:002011-10-05T19:47:04.917-04:00Game Review: A Closed WorldA Closed World is an experimental browser/Flash-based game developed by the Singapore-MIT GAMBIT Game Lab. The goal was to research the organic inclusion of LGBTQ-friendly content into computer games - something that is generally rather rare. In general the nods to the LGBTQ community take the form of having decision paths that include possible same-sex romantic encounters (Mass Vivhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04223785579521616557noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4128302194654601334.post-71344664595754141032011-09-29T12:34:00.002-04:002011-09-29T12:34:24.739-04:00Oh psychology, you suck.Well, this time I'm not ranting on the field of psychology - just the psychology going on in my own head. Naturally, as I came to the decision (for now) to put my transition in a holding pattern, I've been unable to stop window-shopping fem stuff (clothes, home goods, accessories, music, chick flicks, what-have-you!) online! Argh! Totally killing productivity. Have... to Vivhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04223785579521616557noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4128302194654601334.post-230559354936104552011-09-27T13:15:00.001-04:002011-09-27T13:15:13.644-04:00Bothersome tv portrayals of mtf transThis is old news to some people since the show aired about 3 weeks ago, I think.
With the fall television season starting up, I needed to clear out some space on my DVR (my cable company provides a teeny-tiny amount of space in the DVR/HD cable box I have). So, I watched and deleted the recent ABC Nightline Primetime special "(Extra)Ordinary Family" on transgendered children and teens. &Vivhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04223785579521616557noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4128302194654601334.post-84153703255767565712011-09-26T15:41:00.001-04:002011-09-26T15:41:29.274-04:00Transitioning in super-slo-mo.I've followed many other trans-people blog or vlog about their transitions, and I think that is really wonderful for them, and in a perfect world, I would be right with them. But the fact of the matter is that it's not a perfect world, and I'm one of the least perfect bits of this imperfect place. All summer, I've been flirting with the idea of finally coming out, maybe not Vivhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04223785579521616557noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4128302194654601334.post-547318014146269642011-08-12T11:40:00.001-04:002011-08-12T11:41:04.461-04:00The Beauty of DifferentI just received my amazon order yesterday and started to peruse my purchase, Karen Walrond's picture/essay book, The Beauty of Different. It is a collection of photos - mostly close-in portraiture - and stories of people's lives, particularly with respect to how they felt "different" from their peers but eventually came to love their different-ness and see it as an asset. It is reallyVivhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04223785579521616557noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4128302194654601334.post-66392200943447394332011-07-26T14:02:00.000-04:002011-07-26T14:02:43.635-04:00Anony-meI'm not one of the cool kids on Google+ so far, so technically it doesn't affect me, but if Google were to extend their policy to all Google products, like Blogger, YouTube, Gmail, etc that I use all the time, then I would have to stop using them all. Why? I need to be anonymous. Right now, I work with kids. Now, I have never even had the remotest stray thought of doing Vivhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04223785579521616557noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4128302194654601334.post-62350066999234612612011-07-25T14:55:00.000-04:002011-07-25T14:55:06.396-04:00What's right for me.... may not be right for anyone else. I have to say that I am having some pretty major difficulties wondering if I want my condition (transsexualism) to be considered a psychopathological condition or not. Yes, there is mind-body incogruence. But other than that and a nagging shoulder issue, there isn't anything really wrong with me. I'm relatively happy, having enough Vivhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04223785579521616557noreply@blogger.com0